Everything Waldorf – A Parent’s Perspective

by Suzi Banks Baum ©

It all started with a shower gift from a lawyer friend of Jonathan’s. We were childfree, though very pregnant, living in our one room studio in Manhattan. You Are Your Child’s First Teacher was the book.

The gift was the message within the book, which took us both reading it to glean.

We are both children of teachers. We are familiar with teaching, with the importance of teachers in children’s lives. We’d grown up with education being highly valued in our homes.

But here, in this book there was a very different perspective on how, as parents, we shape and contour the lives of our children. It was here that we learned about Rudolf Steiner and Waldorf Education. We learned about silks and homeopathic remedies and over stimulation and the onset of the first teeth as that event relates to the right time for kids to start learning to read.

So, this book, curious and strange in its new approach to parenting had an impact on us. Equally curious and at times strange, Waldorf Education has had a major impact on our lives.

I could tell you about the journey of our 17-year-old son, now a student at the Great Barrington Waldorf High School. I could also tell you about the journey of our daughter Catherine, about to graduate from her 8th grade class this coming June. Instead, I will tell you about my journey, because that has made all the difference.

Sitting in the beeswax scented early childhood building across from Miss Becki Rozhon in the Rose Room of Great Barrington Rudolf Steiner School was where we began. Since moving to Hillsdale, New York from Manhattan, we had met a few families affiliated with the Hawthorne Valley School. We had a baby sitter, then a senior at HVS, who we both liked. Her manner with us, her ease with baby Ben, and the wealth of joy in creating that she shared as a babysitter made us curious about where she had been educated. When we moved from Hillsdale to Great Barrington, Ben enrolled at Gail Mullen’s in-home day care with a few other children who were to become his life long friends. Ben held his new baby sister Catherine up for his day care mates to see, standing in front of Gail’s beautiful handmade Advent calendar and the impression on me in that moment was wanting both of our children to be held in this gentle, colorful, grace filled way of Waldorf education.

So, we enrolled Ben with Miss Becki. He spent one semester at GBRSS, until Miss Becki left to start her own Waldorf kindergarten, Kinderhof, in North Egremont on a small farm in the woods.

Everything Waldorf - A GBRSS Parent's Perspective

It was there that I sat around the short legged wooden table and knit, felted, embroidered, make Advent lanterns, crocheted, peeled, sanded and polished things to be used by the children in the days they spent on that small farm. They played out in the woods, answering Miss Becki’s singing with their chorus of voices along moss lined paths, with horses and a fine set of chickens making days for them that I could never have created on my own.

I was called upon as a parent to not only support the school but to learn about how our children were learning and what we could do to enhance that experience at home. Miss Becki and Mr. Terry expanded what we learned in that first book and created a setting for our whole family to flourish.

When Mr. Sansone came to visit Ben’s class, the big kids of the Kinderhof, I was sure that Ben would be finely set for first grade at GBRSS. We made the transition to the grade school with ease and found that bigger community quite welcoming. Now, our skills were called on in bigger ways. Jonathan joined the Board of Trustees and offered his legal skills to the administration. We both took the training in Non-Violent Communication skills and Consensus Building. We helped build the maple sugar shack and made stuff for the Little People’s shop. We did all the things we were asked to do because it was so obviously valuable to support this school that so well supported the lives of our small children.

This journey holds so many chapters. I gardened with Ben’s class for 7 years and learned about biodynamics and seed saving. I learned about threshing grains that we’d grown and to make healing salve that we then sold. I learned to harvest calendula and dye our Michaelmas silks with the blossoms. I took on leading the Parents’ Association for 3 years, co-leading with Adrian Alcala for two of those years. I led the Parent’s Education committee creating a lecture series and special events for the parents. I wanted for others to enjoy the learning I was engaged in. The wealth within the school can be accessed at so many points, whether through working at the Fair or participating with Paul Marguiles’ study group or attending the Morris Men’s Solstice gatherings.

Everything I did had a direct impact on my mothering. My needle skills, already strong from my years doing couture and theatre work in NYC, were completely enhanced by sitting next to inspiring knitters at meetings, knitting squares for the Fair quilt and by offering increasingly excellent items to the Silent Auction at the Fair. As my children progressed in the grades, so my willingness grew.

Everything Waldorf - A GBRSS Parent's Perspective

To list all that I did, the lectures and workshops I attended would be dull. But this quote, above all the learning I have done in these 17 years of exposure to the Waldorf way of learning, captures it all:

“Enthusiasm is the light wings that carry us.”
Margaretha Eichenholz, Waldorf Handwork teacher

I have met the enthusiasm of my children’s teachers, Becki and Terry, Andrew Sansone and Tracy Brennan, with gratitude and been inspired by all they have offered my children. I have felt my own enthusiasm for Waldorf Education flourish as my learning expanded and my skills increased. How good it is to make things, to do these things well, to understand the wider implications of history as it relates to human development. What a joy to see a plant and see in that plant, the cosmos. What a blessing to celebrate the rituals of the calendar year with appreciation for the human qualities that they honor.

Everything Waldorf - A GBRSS Parent's Perspective

This journey has not been all joy and golden silks. There has been significant pain and loss. You enter in to class when the children are small and precious and move through periods of growth that are confusing and hard to navigate in a community. And, as each class is a family, you also suffer the losses of others and learn to hold and honor them as a community. Prayer shawls and food chains, phone trees and car pools connect us, but it is that enthusiasm that carries us through.

Not only have my skills been enhanced by this 17 yearlong journey, but my heart has learned many things too. I have stepped in to leadership and learned the grace of stepping out of it. I have grown to love people for the gifts they have offered me and my children in the way a family learns to love and accommodate members who are not your favorite, people who call out parts of me that I’d rather ignore.

None of this deeper learning is possible in a community with loose ties and low expectations. I don’t learn when all I am asked is to show up for parent teacher conferences once a year. I do learn when I am asked to accompany a class to the Egypt exhibit at the MET in NYC and spend hours sketching ancient eyes. I do learn when I am challenged to let go of ways of being that are not harmonious with what my child is learning in school.

You Are Your Child's First TeacherWhen I look back at that book by Rahima Baldwin, I hold it as I hold a key to a kingdom. I hold it in gratitude for the world it led me in to. I hold it in sadness for all I could not do to make things better than I did. I hold it in grace for this key is now firmly settled in to my children’s way of being, they are now the children I admired 17 years ago- tall, upright individuals who can look adults in the eyes and offer their hands in greeting.

Enthusiasm has carried us thus far in our lives as parents of Waldorf educated children. It has carried us as members of this community. And it has carried us as a family who share songs and grace, celebrations and ways of being we could never have learned anywhere else. This kingdom of childhood grows and expands with every year, offering stunning new vistas without and within.

Blessings on this day.

Published in the Spring 2012 Mosaic Newsletter of the Great Barrington Rudolf Steiner School (PDF).

Kindergarten Soup Wisdom

by Sarah Flynn, Parent

Last year, we were a brand new family at the Great Barrington Rudolf Steiner School, with a Sun Room kindergartener, a first grader, and a third grader. You could say we “hit the ground running.” Before that, we had no experience whatever with Waldorf education. There have been many “Ahaa!” moments for us as we come to understand more deeply the levels on which this education speaks to our children, as well as the care with which it is offered to them here at GBRSS.

One of those moments came on a cold day in the winter, when my kindergartener was home. We decided to make our very own “soup day.” I had heard all about how the children cut the vegetables and made their own soup, and I was eager to see this in action. So we went to the fridge together, and my daughter instructed me on which vegetables to get out (beets, carrots, potatoes, and kale). Then she picked out her knife and cutting board, and sat at the table expectantly. “Does Mrs. Kuzia give you the vegetables raw, or are they soft?” I asked. She told me they were raw and very hard. So I hesitantly handed her a raw beet. “Like this?” She took the beet, looked at it skeptically, shrugged her shoulders, and began to try to cut it with her butter knife. After the beet had shot across the kitchen a few times, I realized there must be more to it than that. I cut the beet in half and handed it back to her. “That’s more like at school,” she said, but of course she still couldn’t cut it. When I finally cut the beet into thin strips, she beamed and said encouragingly, “Just like that!” and proceeded to cut all the vegetables for a wonderful pot of soup.

While we ate our soup, I realized a few things. The children are not doing “little child things.” They are engaged in real-life tasks, at an age-appropriate level. Mia is learning to care for herself, others, and the space we inhabit, which is the first and most basic life skill. And at a very young age, the children are learning that it is enjoyable to be competent. These are things about the school that are difficult to explain. How do you tell someone looking for reading readiness that chopping veggies is actually exactly what kindergarteners need most? I did not know that myself just a year ago!

So, many thanks to the loving early childhood teachers who carefully prepare the veggies for little ones to chop, and who reverently break bread with them on bread day. I appreciate the intention and purpose that are behind these seemingly simple gifts you give our children.

Wondering Why

by Heather Bellow, Parent


Senta Reiss Watercolor
Twinkle twinkle little star,
how I wonder what you are…

This was a favorite song of my children’s when they were very small. They still love it, the way they love all reminders of their babyhood. But now, my eight-year-old is seeing stars in a different light. She informed me one night, as she was settling in to bed, “the sky is so black and big and all those little stars… I know it is called the universe, mama, and it’s keeping me awake.”

The universe does have that effect. I see she is growing up and that concepts which may not have stuck a year ago, are provocative now.

I suppose this has to happen. For all our efforts to preserve the wonder of small children, it fades rapidly in our material world, that material paradigm that Rudolf Steiner—at the turn of the twentieth century—said could be the undoing of a spiritually healthy humanity. The notion that everything must be measured and analyzed to be understood has taken its toll on the West. And now, at the beginning of the twenty-first century, it seems we are in real trouble.

As I climbed the stairs with yet another cup of warmed milk for my restless daughter, I recoiled at the idea that a feeling of unease about the universe may be a signpost of the arduous journey into the mainstream of modern Western consciousness.

Yes, the universe is dark and mysterious. We all are confined to this spinning globe, in miraculous suspension, as though in the cupped palms of divine hands. Native peoples see the earth as a living, breathing being. It birthed us all. And the universe really is our mother home. The ancients knew this and they charted the paths of the stars. The universe is vast but we belong to her. The stars are her children as well.

Now, instead of a wondrous garden of celestial magic, the universe and her inhabitants are seen as a scientific cosmos to be navigated with machines. The modern world, with its need for abstraction and measure, is wonderful and necessary. Steiner, too, recognized this. But children live in a different consciousness; the world has not yet shaped them or assigned constructs. To a child, the star—whether in the heavens or in the apple’s core—are products of divine construction.

When my daughter was a baby, her crib lay directly under a skylight. Deep in the northern Vermont woods the stars above her were a source of comfort, easing her into sleep. Why should it be that they now inspire unease? In this world we live in, wonder and awe can slide into dread. I think this is what we are trying to avoid by preserving wonder in our children. Perhaps this preservation is an antidote to the existential fear that can lead humans down the material chute, in danger of becoming stuck there. Or is it the other way around? Perhaps the Waldorf way is so good for children precisely because it delays abstraction long enough to prevent becoming mired in a sense of dread that we parents, raised towards the end of the twentieth century, are prone to feel.

Of a renowned astronomer in our extended family, my daughter asks, “How does she study the stars?” I explain to her about the observatory and the powerful telescopes. But I also tell her that the stars have secrets which they will not tell. From earth they are magical lights which urge us to remember who we are and where we are.

Wonder precedes great scientific discovery—reason enough to keep it intact. The wonder of the astronomer must be as infinitesimal as the universe itself. Surely that wonder can only increase while the stars are examined. After all, knowledge acts as a rich fertilizer in the garden of wonder. But wonder, it seems, must come first. Watercolor by Senta Reis

7th Grade Glen Brook Trip

by Roger Reed, Parent

On the first day of school after the picnic, I headed to Marlborough, New Hampshire, where I would chaperone the 7th grade on their class trip to Glenbrook. There they would not only have the opportunity to navigate through both low and high ropes courses, but also hike to the top of Mount Monadnock. During these action packed days, the children transform in many ways. They have the chance to challenge themselves and their peers both physically and mentally. Every one of them certainly came home with new experiences and new horizons. There were many wonderful moments of discovery during those days, but there was one specifically that stands out in my mind.

On Friday, after main lesson in the dining room, we made our bag lunches and headed off to hike up Mount Monadnock, a 2 hour trek up, (and 2 back!,) up to the barren rocky top, where on a clear day you can see Boston. There was also another school group there, making it quite noisy on top of the whistling wind. It was clear but we had to settle for the mirror reflections sent up by the staff back down the mountain at Glenbrook.

After our lunch, we started to explore around a bit. There was a small pool of water in a depression of the rocks in which some of our students and some of the other group had discovered that there were pollywogs in this high altitude pool. Bright green, with four legs formed, their tails slowly being absorbed. Fascinating little ecosystem. One of our girls carefully scooped them up for closer observation while the other students grabbed wildly and futilely for their prey. How did they get here? What were they? How many are there? The questions were almost as thick as the little creatures, when a voice boomed out, “Get your hands out of that filthy, disgusting water. If you can’t show some responsibility, then I guess you will have to lose some of your freedoms.” It was the voice of one of the adults from the other group. By her tone of authority, I guessed it was their teacher. I stood in utter shock. Filthy? Disgusting? I figured it was rainwater, there was no other source up here. It was full of life, intrigue and discovery. Her charges shirked away, back to sit on the rocks. I was so thankful for our teaching philosophy of hands-on (in) learning.

The woman returned to later again chase her students away. This time I challenged her on her description. She said, “Well, there might be Giardia!” I assured her that I hadn’t seen any signs of a beaver the whole trip. “Well, someone might have peed in it!” So. . . ? There was no logical or intellectual discussion to be had. I was very tempted to jump into the little pool but it would have scared the little critters. One of our students had deducted that they were in fact tree frogs, by observing their sticky foot pads. They would mature, head for lower territory when the time was right or end up as part of the food chain. What a great view I had that day. I chortled to myself all the way down.